Thursday, 22 December 2011

Things I would Tell Myself If I was Younger

So, i was sitting in my office comfortably staring at my screen wondering how best to act busy (I kid...:))A mail came from one of my dearest friends and my first thought was. This is long! How am i supposed to read this? Why do people even bother to send mails this long? The moment i started reading it, i knew it was something i would never forget for the rest of my life. Instantly, i knew i was going to print it out and paste it on the wall of my room where i could wake up and see it every day. I sent a few copies to some of my friends and forced a few to read it but this is something i had to share. Please read carefully and learn from it.
Whether you are younger or older than 25, if you're not doing the things on this list it's never too late to start. The things you do today will make a difference to your tomorrow.

1) Read, Read and Read Some More
One of the biggest contributions to my personal growth has come from the books I've read in the last few years. Your parents, teachers and friends can only teach you so much when you're growing up. Through books you're able to expand your horizons, increase your opportunities and accelerate your growth.

The kind of books I recommend reading are books related to personal development, psychology, success studies, biographies of successful people and spiritual kind of books.

2) It's Not Important What People Think Of You
I used to care very much what others would think of me and as a result I held back on many things I should have done like take part in events where I would have to get up on stage or go to parties where I hardly knew anyone.

It really does not matter what other people think of you. Everyone will have an opinion about you, but this opinion is hardly ever based on who you really are because most people will never spend enough time with you to get to know you. Your goal shouldn't be to get people to like you. Whether someone thinks that you're an idiot or whether they think that you're awesome, that's their business, not yours.

Spend your life being the best person that you can be, follow your heart and do the things that make you happy. Don't hold back because you're afraid of what others may think of you.

3) Enjoy Every Moment of now
there is a very cliché but very true quote:

"Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery but today is a gift. That's why they call it the present."

  Time is the most precious and the most uncertain resource that we have in our lives. In my relatively short time on this earth I've seen and heard of many people pass away at very young ages. You never know how long you've got left to live and that is why you have to make the most of every moment that you're alive.

When I was younger I spend a lot of time wishing days away so that it could be weekend, or that I could be old enough to drive or party.

Don't wish your life away; don't wish that you were older. Enjoy the process of growth and enjoy the phase of your life that you are in right now.

4) Whether You Think You can or Cannot, You Are Right
this is the old wisdom from Henry Ford but it's oh so true. Don't limit yourself into thinking that you can't do something because what you believe to be true mostly tends to become true.

I see so many people who say they can't do something before they've even tried to do it. I've been guilty of this myself. There have been many occasions where someone's invited me to try something I've never done before and I just declined because it seemed way too difficult for me and I believed that there was no chance I could do it.

Before you decide that you cannot do something, try to do it first. Even then, don't believe that you cannot do something just because you failed at it in the first few attempts.

5) Start Your Own Business
Doing something with your own initiative and turning nothing into something profitable is one of the best ways to grow and discover yourself. It doesn't matter what it is that you do, as long as you attempt to do something that will earn you money.

You could shine shoes, sell lemonade on a hot day, start a blog, and sell things on eBay or whatever you're interested in. I never did this as a kid and I think this would have made a huge difference to being able to achieve financial success at an early age.

6) Don't Judge People by Their Appearance
One thing I've learned is that looks can be very deceiving. I've met incredible people who would be deemed trashy or outcasts by society based on their appearance and I've met people who you would think are high-value people but who turn out to be spineless and value-taking.

You cannot judge the character of a person based on their appearance alone. Some people don't care about impressing others with fashionable appearances and some people try too hard to impress people with their clothes and style.

Give yourself time to get to know someone before you judge them.

7) Talk To As Many New People As Possible
you can learn something from everyone, no matter how old they are or where they're from. I used to be very fearful of talking to strangers or people I hardly knew because

I had little confidence and was scared of rejection.

Over the last years I've really come to love talking to as many new people as possible. It doesn't matter who they are or where they're from, just grab every opportunity to talk to someone you don't know. You don't need to gain anything from the interaction; all you need to do is say hi and start a conversation. Most of the time the conversation will flow, sometimes it will be fantastic and sometimes it won't work at all.

I've met some of the most interesting people of my life in the most random places like on plane, on the street or simply at a club.

8 ) Don't Worry About Girls/boys And Dating
I was always shy when I was younger and I had no idea how to talk to girls but I always wanted to have a boyfriend or at least go on dates with handsome guys. Due to my lack of success in this area I couldn't wait to grow up so things would get better.

In hindsight I'd tell myself to just enjoy being young and not to worry about girls/boys and dating. There's plenty of time for that in your twenties.

9) Eat Healthy
When I was younger I loved junk food and sweet stuff. I did eat healthy meals 2-3 times per day, but I in between those meals I would always stuff myself with junk food.

Only recently have I switched to eating healthy meals 3 times a day and snacking on healthy food in-between. I've lost most of my cravings for junk food and overall I feel much more energetic and much healthier.

Eat healthy and it'll benefit you for many years to come.

10) Success Doesn't Come Easy
It takes many months and years of consistent hard work to become successful with anything. There is no instant gratification and it's not possible to spend a few weeks learning something and then expect to master it completely.

In my younger years I sincerely believed that I would have success at anything I did within a very short period of time and when I failed I was very disappointed with myself.

If you want to achieve success with anything you do, it's a long-term game. Be persistent, take action towards your goal every day and don't give up when you experience obstacles or setbacks.

11) Focus On the Positive
There are always two sides to everything and the side you choose to focus on will make the difference between happiness and sadness. Choose to focus your energy and attention on the positive side of everything, even when it may seem impossible to do so at times.

If you focus on the negative side of things, not only will you deprive yourself of the joy and happiness you could have but you will also take away joy and happiness from those around you. Focus on the positive side of things and you will find happiness and inspire happiness in those around you.

12) Learn to let go
hardly anything in life goes exactly as planned. Sometimes you have pleasant surprises but other times you can be faced with unwelcome turn of events. If you are too attached to a specific outcome then things can have a crippling effect on you when they don't turn out as you want them too.

Learning to let go is a very important skill to master. When good things in your life come to an end and it's not possible to change that, then the ability to let go will allow you to get back on your feet and find happiness or success again.

13) Stop worrying about the Future So Much
it’s literally impossible to predict the future, so why do we spend so much time trying to predict it? I used to spend hours worrying about all sorts of dangers and uncertainties while I should have just enjoyed the present moment.

It's good to plan for the future and work towards your goals but it's for your own good that you don't worry too much about the future. Have you plan, stick to it for as long as you can and if you need to adapt, adapt.

14) Money Is Important but It Is Not the End Goal
Money is an essential ingredient to freedom. Enough money allows you to live how you want to live and it allows you to spend your time doing what you love but money cannot buy you happiness.

You shouldn't set your main goal in life as acquiring a bit sum of money. Money should just be the means to allow you to do what you really want to do in life. When I was younger I just wanted to have millions of dollars in the bank, no matter what the cost.

Define the goals that you want to achieve in your life, determine how much money you would need to have for that and then take action based on that plan.

15) Stand Up For What You Believe in
There will always be negative people who tear down your hopes and dreams. There are always people who tell you how to live your live and people who tell you what you cannot do.

If you believe in something, don't let others talk you out of it. Avoid negative people and nay-Sayers but if you have to, stand up for what you believe in. Be prepared to fight for it.

16) All You Need In Life Is A Few Good Friends
When I was younger I thought that I needed to have

dozens of friends in my life because it would ensure fun, good times and status. I've come to realize that you only need a few really good friends in your life and that will give you all the fun you need. If you have a relationship and a job then there simply isn't enough time to spend with more than just a few close friends anyway.

Choose quality over quantity when it comes to your friends. 3 Close friends who would do anything for you are better than 30 fair-weather friends.

17) The People Make the Place
I always used to have great trouble deciding where I would want to live when I was older. I've come to realize that it's not so much the place that matters; it's the people you know in that place. Whether you want to live in South Africa, Asia, Australia or Europe, they can all be fantastic places if you have

good friends or someone you truly care about there with you.

18) When Things Are Difficult See It as A Test
Life isn't all roses and sunshine, sometimes there's a couple of storms that come your way too. There are times when you'll be faced with setbacks, obstacles and failure.

When things get difficult I like to see them as a test of some sort. It may be a test of patience, a test of belief or faith or a test of determination. This allows you to rationalize the difficulties you're facing so that you can stop worry and focus all your energy on getting through the test as best you can.

19) Don't Carry Hate or Anger with You
one of the biggest negative influences on your happiness and enjoyment of life is if your heart is filled with hatred and anger. I used to be very quick to be angry at someone or to hate them if they did something bad to me. Sometimes I was just jealous of someone who was always better than me and I would carry that hatred with me every day and it really poisoned my happiness.

There is nothing wrong with getting angry, there's only something wrong with staying angry and allowing that anger to turn into hate. When you hate someone, the person it affects the most is you. Learn to resolve your anger and hatred so that you don't carry it with you. Keep your heart stainless.

20) You Don't Always Need To Prove Yourself
People around you will always challenge you to prove yourself. This may be because they are insecure, jealous or simply because they want to see you make a fool out of yourself.

One thing I've learned is that it's good to not always react to these challenges because it doesn't matter what people think. If you feel that you're not going to gain anything from proving yourself to someone other than validation, then why do it? Let the haters hate and just do your thing.

21) Respect Is Everything
I'd say that respect is the single most important guideline for life and without it you'll very likely end up in big trouble. Respect is not just something that you have for an older person; respect is almost like a religion. You need to have respect for everything and anything in life: people, feelings, nature, animals, machinery and anything else you come into contact with.

Show respect and there's a good chance that all areas of life will respect you back.

22) Don't Take Anything For Granted
Life is a gift. It's very easy to become so complacent with what you have that it's easy to forget how lucky you are to have it.

Simple things like having a roof over your head, the freedom to travel or walk around your city without being shot or arrested, food on the table, loving friends and family etc. are what you should be grateful for every day.

23) Create a Vision Board and Imagine Your Dreams Every Day
knowing what you want to achieve and getting your subconscious to focus on your goals play a big role in the success you achieve. I highly recommend that you create your own kind of vision board with pictures of your goals. Put this vision board in a place where you'll see it every night before you go to sleep and every morning when you wake up.

Not only does this program your subconscious mind with the goals that you want to achieve but it also reminds you on a daily basis of what it is that you really want from life.

24) Don't Believe Anyone Unless You Verify It First
there are way too many people in this world who want to take advantage of you or use you for their own gains. People will lie to you, trick you and abuse your honesty if you let them.

It's of course crazy to be paranoid that everyone is out to get you but it's always good to be cautious of the intentions of others. When it comes to the important things and a lot is at stake, always do your own research to verify that what someone is telling you is indeed the truth.

25) Never Forget who you are
as life goes on you are subjected to many different influences. Sometimes you take a wrong turn or end up on the wrong path which causes you to lose track of who you are.

Always remember who you are and where you came from. If your current life path is putting you in situations that you're not happy with, make drastic changes and get back to the person who you are.

These are 25 things that I would love to tell my younger self but since that's impossible, I've told you instead. I hope you can use some of these points to improve your life, starting today.

Monday, 3 October 2011

Happy B'day Naija

I  dey hail ooo!.

My fellow widows/Nigerians if you guys know what I have been through this past month, you would pity me seriously. This public holiday couldn’t have come soonest else I would have been lounging in Area B police station for slapping someone at the office…. The only comfort I have sometimes in the office is listening to Rihanna’s new single WE FOUND LOVE, you can download it here
I really love it and as always, Rihanna shows off her versatility .Talking about love,I spend the other half of my day dreaming and crushing on a certain fair ,tall ,& sexy guy in the office **cough cough**(i noe say my eyes chuk chuk too much......wteva!).i guess i have caught the bug........I mean what is life without its ups and downs? My bank has swallowed me up, I don't do anything apart from wake up, go to work, eat at work, vex at work, meet a few idiots people at work, sleep at work, cry at work etc. you know what I mean, I don't have to continue. This is me trying to say that I have been busy in fact busy is an understatement, maybe busy-around-miss-errand-abeg-buy-me-food-girl is better. All my enemies that said that service to our No.1 nation is fun,e no go better for you!

Back to the subject of discussion, I have tried to rescue little pieces of my social life. My bestie Tosin had her B'day 2weeks ago (y'all don't be deceived, she is old ooo !), I had a fun with the girls it was unbelievable. I still need to appreciate her for the wonderful fried rice and chicken I ate in a very nice V.I.P room (i am bush, I accept).Tosin has been my very good friend since high school (i think s.s.1 / s.s.2)....i used to tease her and call her Garfield but she is such a good sport that most times i feel like giving her the world's greatest bear hug.Anyhoos, her b'day gave me an idea to switch up this blog a little and try something different. A post with pictures of what i wore. I am my blog's style of the day and i am sure thou shall not be disappointed with my fashion capabilities. 

You guys have to excuse my shameful display of low quality pictures, it is courtesy of different models of BlackBerrys and one version of nokia c3 (*blush*, moni no dey easy atall) .hopefully one of my faithful readers can gift me a very nice camera.

Dress: Saint Tropez West   Bag: YFS  .The celebrant is in the middle.

Shoes: F&F. Please don't look at my sexzy legs too much.....i know they are irrestible*
Most patriotic Nigerian...*camera whoring*

More camera whoring...........The girls and i
See Nyash,what manner of nyash is dis i see? !!! spot the biggest nyash and dts the celebrant

Ring: DealDey.
Necklace: Made by me.
Also pardon the lack of exotic poses or glam shots,na condition make crayfish bend....Till the next time we meet, stay humble and positive.

xoxo sugarkanke.......

Tuesday, 16 August 2011

Mini Musings at the office

The only constant thing in life is change. Why did that just pop into my head? I am here at work and I am supposed to be working my a*s off on a quiz application that i am developing but here I am going through all my old text messages and deleting them one by one. Turned 22 a few days ago and I am yet to make a "add new year resolution”. I shall not digress........back to change.

Been going through my text messages so i could delete a few and create more space for a few more. Life indeed is funny. I saw a lot of messages I had forgotten existed. It’s funny how quickly you outgrow some people and some things.Still not sure whether I am not on the right tract of life or not but one thing i know for sure is that for every second you grow, a lot changes. The way you think, how you feel, who you meet changes, your friends change.

It seems just yesterday I was a naive little girl looking for answers. I have moved from that to an adventurous young lady that is trying to find more to life and create a niche. There are a few things that never change or leave for instance;

• my family

• My love for chocolates (e no fit happen....!)

• my forever crush on Jay-Z(King B, watch your backside, i am coming for him)

• my awe for Nicki Minaj

 • my respect for Beyonce Knowles

 • my love for God

• the believe that Rihanna and I look like twins

• the song Deuces

• Finally, my disgust for liars and old married men that cheat.

 There are a few things I have outgrown over the years, such as;.........*thinking,thinking,thinking*.

 • Internet vexing

• worrying about things I can't change

•cartoon network

• Timbaland boots

• Rihanna's red hair

•Styl plus (sorry all Styl plus' fans don't know what happen but it just happened)

 • When guys say; "you are the only sugar in my tea, i can't live without you, i must to marry you (na dem sabi! notn for dem)".

• D.m.x type of music.(Whatever that means?) and lying to my parents

What has changed in your life? What have you outgrown? what are you up to this beautiful week? hope not pretending to work like me.
Saw this picture a while back from someone's blog and loved it. I don't know why but it makes a helluva lot of sense.


P.S : Nysc has done it again,alert don reach my phone!!!.Praise God!!!. Corper shun!(........hope i got it right?).Very soon,i know i would have to outgrow waiting for nysc allowance every month.


Beyonce's sultry $24 Geometric Woven Dress from Love Culture.i mean talk about look for less.

Go grab yours for this summer.

Photo credits :

xoxo sugarkanke.......

Thursday, 11 August 2011

Happy b'day to me,yay ! ! !

what a day ! thank you all for the wonderful text messages,phone calls,fcb messages ...God you all*

xoxo sugarkanke

Tuesday, 7 June 2011

I got the magic in me, my mojo is back*

I think I got my mojo back! For the first time in a very long time, I actually feel like writing / blogging or whatever the heck you wanna call it. My life has been on a semi roller coasta ride since the beginning of this year and I can’t even begin to explain at all.

Anyhoos a rundown/breakdown of my famous 2011 year so far.

  •     Broke up wt a bf of 3yrs

  •     Dated an embarrassment for 2weeks.I mean a major embarrassment.dis guy was too bush for words and I don’t know why I agreed to even be seen with him. Beer drinking-chain smoking-extremely large beer stomach of a guy. I guess he was my rebound. Imagine a guy asking you your fav position on your first date?

  •  Started my service in this dope bank, really nice, except it’s so stressful especially if your are in the I.T. department.I literally don’t have time for myself.

  • Met an extreme psychopath at the office, he’s cool and all but has to be the weirdest guy I have met in my life. Fought with said psychopath and came out victorious *insert victory dance*.

  • Lost a lot of weight all thanks to nysc camp, Hallelujah somebody?
Awon sexzy corper ! ! !
  • Almost lost my beautiful sexy leg this year in an almost car accident (shout out to all my enemies…….i am still alive bitches!!!)

  • Started building my shoe collection and I am starting to get stuff and clothes I like. It’s been a long time coming, I remember back in school, I could barely afford extra cash to buy clothes and shoes but I guess my time is NOW! And I am going to use it wisely.

  • Met a lot of guys ….friends wt intentions ;) u know wt I mean, you can’t hate a girl.

  •  Got an external hard disk (not a major achievement but so darn proud of myself).

  • Met an extremely sweet dr. that brings me lunch at work…….almost dated him but…….

  •  Decided to stay and enjoy being single. Take my time because I got this nagging feeling that my next relationship would end up more serious than I anticipated so I gotta enjoy my freedom.

  • Basically, I am loving myself more than ever.

  • Saw Neato-C and short/fat Eldee in flesh. Wasn’t mega impressed……..this is not a big deal NOTE just wanted my list to be longer :)

  •  I have managed to keep in touch wt all my friends which is very unusual of me.

  • Trying to catch all the fun I can in case I die 2mrw (God forbid oooo!).

  • Funny enough, haven’t fallen in love or had any major crush recently….so strange.

  •  Started using more makeup on my face.

  • Have this really hot smoking guy in my office but he’s married .he is hot in a nerdy, dorky kind of way, tall dark and has this childlike laugh and sense of humor. He is very good at his job, a no go area cos he’s married. Had a half day crush.

  • Have this urge to travel to India or Dubai. Have no idea why?

  • I think I am starting to have a thing for politics…….huh? I say again.

So far so good, that’s all folks for now would update as soon as something changes .Attended this monthly LPM (Le Petit Marche) sale at Get Arena Lagos Nigeria. It happens every last Sunday of every month at diff locations. They have lots of cool stuff and I got this fabulous Ankara slippers and Alice band from Tionni Accessories. It’s so beautiful and unique. Although they are based in Abuja, I think u can call and place your orders. Who knows, you can meet a local celebrity crush at one of these events. Pictures below:

Style of the day.

Nicki minaj’s Gianmarco Lorenzi peep toe crystal wedge heels.omg !, she totally shut it down.This shoe has brought her up to No. 1 in my celebrities with the baddest shoe game.The shoe cost about $2,767. The gold tone crystal embellished shoes have a cut away ledge detail platform sole, peep toe, and high wedge heel. I can kill for just a pair.Have fab week ahead.

Photo credits:

xoxo sugarkanke.......

Sunday, 5 June 2011

A little dash....would be back in a flash....

BeEn a while.......i missed blogger.Just wanted to drop a few lines to convince you guys that i am still alive.Started a new job that is uber hectic for words but would try to leave a proper post this week.The Nigerian blog awards are back again.Don't forget to nominate your fav blogs.In the meantime,here's a picture for you to keep me in your mind.

xoxo sugarkanke.......

Saturday, 16 April 2011

Be careful not to make a woman cry, because God counts her tears. The woman

came out of a man's rib.Not from his feet to be walked on. Not from his head to be superior, But from the side to be equal - under the arm to be protected and next to the heart to be loved.
                                                                                               -A Friend

Friday, 4 March 2011

Pictures that are stiff are not as interesting as GIFs ! ! !

OK,so i have been on a long hiatus and haven't been blogging with great tenacity, sue me!.Although, i have been keeping up with all my favorite blogs. While i was doing that,i came across something interesting.You can say i am tech savy and i am crazy about creating anything software and design.I decided to try my luck making pictures with some effect as i saw on some the blogs i visited.This blog was my inspiration and i totally stole her idea (i am guilty as charged*).I love her blog and i am always checking it out every two days because it's so entertaining and educative.Please visit her blog and check out her version
 HERE! .
I am still an amateur, please bear with my bad imitation of a customized version of a Gif image of moi in the last two pictures,I'll perfect  my art in no time 0_o.Below are a few of my favorites and i can't remember where exactly i got them from the web,pardon my plagiarism.

I have no idea who this is but i had to add it cos it's sexy as hell ! ! !
Princess and the frog .....hahahaa
Scary Minaj ! ! !
I .♥  Rih Rih

Who is this pwetty girl eh?

I am such a freaking Genius

xoxo sugarkanke.......